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When things remind you of what you went through...

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I am a very musical person and there have been a few songs that have come out regarding abuse and children. A couple weeks ago I heard this beautiful a exteremly sad song called "Alyssa Lies". This first time I head this song I had to pull the car over and I just sat there and cried. Yesterday I found the CD of the person who sings the song. His name is Jason Michael Carroll and of course I bought it. In the song he talks about his daughter meeting a new friend at school but she doesn't understand why Alyssa lies to the school, teachers, friends etc about her bruises. At first he just shrugs her off as being a young girl but then he listens to his little girl and the story that she has regarding the bruises that she has seen on Alyssa. He decides that after the weekend he would go to the school and report what he has heard and make something happen so this little girl can be safe. When he and his daughter arrives at school Monday everyone looks sad and his daughter keeps asking why. He has to tell his little girl that Alyssa won't be at school because "...Alyssa lies with Jesus...because no one would do anyting to help her". I so much relate to this that it is scary and I often wonder why I am here. With the beatings that I went through I should have died along time ago. And even though I had these horrible bruises that everyone could see and when I got older I told what was happening NO ONE did anything. I had tons of family around us one who was a Trooper in the Michigan State Police, but instead of helping they all turned us away (me and my younger twin brothers).

What makes poeople do that????? And do any of you have similar experiences with something taking you back to those times in your life?
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That is a sad song. Sorry no one helped you and your twin brothers out. The only reason i can come up with is no one wanted to believe it was happening or it happened. Some families are like that. sorry that had to happen to you. Yes every now and then things will come up and i'm stuck back in my past of abuse. I was emotionally abused and it seems like it is always with me. In one form or another.
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My husband was abused quite badly - hit over the head with a cast iron skillet, hot coffee in his face, even bruises before he could walk - and everyone talks about his mother and how horrible it was but no one did anything! People are detached and are scared to get involved for fear of breaking up a family for the wrong reasons, or, god forbid, dealing with extra stress. That is the only explanation I can offer, and it's not a good one. Sometimes, I think the answers are much more simple then we would like them to be. Complex trauma doesn't always have complex reasons... unfortunately, trying to make sense of "why" wont always work because the "why" just isn't good enough. My problem is that I can't remember a lot of stuff. I have a hard time reconciling what happened to me and how it affected me because i have forgotten most of it. I was physically abused (not beaten - just mom's whipping girl, so to speak) and emotionally abused. Most of my abuse was covert and unobvious so I feel like a wuss because it wasn't "that bad." Although, my brain says otherwise...
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Are there any of those people alive today that abused you. You need to confront them and let them know that you are not their piece of garbage. You need to shut them up and say your piece no matter how excited and angry you get. By all means do not let them try to calm you down or talk you dow. Its easy to give in the first time around because they gave you the personality of a beaten dog. They were robbing you of your abundance in life by slapping you into the underworld of the mind also known as the shadow. It is a labryinth and a maze down there without any edu. to deal with it. The best thing is to confront them. People will always see you as that person and you will project a victim persona onto your world. Practice what you will say. Write it down cause once you start on them it will be totally different than what you thought. Dont let them talk you down.......Stand firm.
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i disagree with confronting people. those people are dangerous in my book. stay clear of them and take care of you!!!

your family reminds me of something that happened here a few years ago. a gal was killed by her husband. they were both cops and everyone in the force knew what was happening. her entire family knew. but no one did a thing and now she's dead. its just sickening. people are sickening in their pathetic weakness.
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