
Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
You can't make her accept you, you can only make YOU accept you. That's where you are dropping the ball. Your mother's high opinion of you, no matter how much you want it, clearly isn't forthcoming. Fine. Where is your own opinion of you? When did her opinion of you start to matter more to you than your own? You will never make her see anything she either can't or won't see. On the other hand, you can accept a somewhat more "superficial" relationship with her and still be friends. It may not be what you want, but it also may not be forever. She just may need time.
Want to know why I'm saying all this? Because i lived it. My Mom is barely accepting of me and i know it. Took me FOREVER to understand exactly what i just told you. I wanted her approval, her acceptance, her pride in me to show and it never did. Finally dawned on me one day that she just can't. I don't know why, and i may never know why and that's ok. As long as I accept myself, approve of myself and take pride in my own accomplishments i don't need hers. She and I know have a friendly and caring relationship, but it's nowhere near as close as a mother and daughter should be.