My sister & I were beaten almost daily as kids and then she would hit on me. She went on later to make friends with people who would mock me. Our dad never loved her as much as me so I allowed her to do things because I felt sorry for her. Well, we're in our 50's now and she still emotionally abuses me. Although our mom has been dead 7 years now and my sister was executor and divided things "fairly", my sister still demands I give her things. I have a lot of stress in my life (financial, health, helping raise one set of grandkids, almost estranged from my other set) and reading is my escape mechanism. Well, my sister lent me some books last week. She asked me yesterday about a book, I said I had just started it and things were kind of slow. She went off on me--that was her favorite author, that woman's husband died, on and on. I asked her would she choose a book over her sister and she said I am crazy--referring to my antidepressants & antianxiety meds. I just want to quit being hurt by her. I emailed her & told her I am not communicating--maybe never.
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