I am very happily married to a wonderful man and I have 3 good kids. That is what keeps me sane and still going. My dad is emotionally /verbally abusive. I just learned this week that he has hit my mom too. He hates everyone in my extended family. He is responsible for ending my brother's marriage. I am not allowed to have any contact with my brother's x. He hates my husband and does pay any mind to our kids. As for me...I was belittled, embarrassed, mocked , put-down, ridiculed. I could go on here. Twice in my young adulthood I was slapped so hard across the face I moved out, but then came back. Funny, that I would've done anything to gain any love and approval from him. About a year ago..I made a very difficult decision to end my relationship with my dad. I have been in therapy thru this process and have surrounded myself with people who love and support me. I thought the hard part was behind me. My mom has fought my decision every step of the way. My brother and sister dont even speak of it. They talk to me, they just dont mention the 100lb elephant in the room....if you know what I mean. My mom has even gone so far as to come in my home scolding me and telling me that she is my mother and if she has to talk to me she will. My mom and I were soo close before this. Now our relationship is very fragmented. It is so hard to be around them, when they cant even acknowledge anything. She even has told me I have blown this out of porportion. and that he is hurting???!!! What about me and my family??? They have even said that some things I was upset about didnt happen. Any advice would be really helpful. Some days are harder than others. I feel like I would like to be left alone to heal.
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