Since at a young age my grandfather alwasy had an eye for me. Nothing to extreme nothing my family noticed but I did. From his constant stares to him sitting outside on his chair while he drinks his ice tea while smoking his ciggarate while he watches me swim i always felt uncomfortable. From all the times he said "Sweetheart come sit on my lap" or his lingering hugs when his hands would slowly get lower and lower I knew it was odd. From pincing/grabbing my butt to ignoratly slapping my ass while he says "My have you changed." Knowing it was innoproriate Id pull away and run to my grandma. It was easier when he worked because during summer at age 12 i could go to my grandmas house and swim and play without him watching. My grandmother is my safety house. She helps me get away from my home stuggles but when my grandfather lost his job I went to my grandmother to get away from home to involve in a completly other situation. From him beginning to stare longer and have his looks linger. To me coming over to my grandmas from soccer practice wearing a tanktop and sport bra where he sat there and asked me what was underneath my tanktop. To him then asking me to show him what it looks like. At 12 years old I knew it was wrong but he was my grandpa. So i lifted my shirt and showed him my bra and then put it back down and ran to my sister to go play. Angry at myself for doing such a thing but i was taught to respect you elders and listen to what they say so i tried to shake it off. I felt uncomfortable and scared now. As i grew older the stares continued the butt grabbing continued. It porgressed to him making me sit on his lap at 15 while he held me and talked me about different nonsense thing. To massaging my legs because of soccer even when i say im okay. Or 'accidently' grazing my breast. I felt uncomfortable. Now at age 16 his stared conintue but he hides it better and i do not let him touch me. The only thing he does now is drink his ice tea and smokes his ciggarate while he sits outside and watches me swim. But now i always wear a big tshirt in the pool so he cant watch me swim and i wear baggy clothes so his stare wouldnt linger. Still uncomfortable. My grandmas house my safe place but even in my safe place I have to face feeling uncomfortable everyday.
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