Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Need some advise.
I am so afraid of rejection and abandomment that I have a hard time not being dissapointed when any of my friends cancel a lunch or get together. I feel rejected, angry, overwhelmed by sadness, remorse for expecting anything from someone. I sometimes don't seek out friendships for that specific reason. I want to trust people and not be disappointed or expect the worst immediately, but I'm not sure how to change.
Afraid, too many years of hoping my spouse will change and always being dissapointed and feeling remorse for asking or expecting that if you love me?!
Any ideas.
I am so afraid of rejection and abandomment that I have a hard time not being dissapointed when any of my friends cancel a lunch or get together. I feel rejected, angry, overwhelmed by sadness, remorse for expecting anything from someone. I sometimes don't seek out friendships for that specific reason. I want to trust people and not be disappointed or expect the worst immediately, but I'm not sure how to change.
Afraid, too many years of hoping my spouse will change and always being dissapointed and feeling remorse for asking or expecting that if you love me?!
Any ideas.
deleted_user
are you seeing a counsler for how you feel? If not I highly recommend it.
psyc
counseling helped me. sometimes I find myself doing and have to remind myself what I have learned from my therapist.hang in there hunand Im here if you need me.
deleted_user
I should have mentioned that I am in therapy and have been for a while. Talking and practical application/inspiration from others helps. Please continue to share, it helps.
deleted_user
My b/f asks me the same thing all the time..after a year and half how can you not trust me? I say well considering what Ive been through over the years its just not as easy as he makes it sound. Then couple that with (which I dont tell him) the fact that he is turning out to be like the others...why should I and how can I? I understand what your going through but not men are like this....I guess the only way to trust others is to learn to trust ourselves.
deleted_user
I know it sounds oversimplistic, this is something I had to do, I had to become best friends with myself. I took myself out for many lunches and movies and I love my own company. You can't change other people. Love your self!
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