i do not.but i can certainly understand your fear.try and see to getting a new user name.fly

I think about that as well. I especially worry about my stalker ex. He's been known to stalk me online. My recent ex doesn't care enough to look for anything about me. But I wish he would so he could see what he put me through and how much I cared.

you can make them completely private so at least you can get it out of your system. i usually will try and google any words in my posts to see if it pops up and so far nothing..and this is not the site for HIM, no porn! no naked women! he is not looking for support..:)

I worry about it all the time - he says that he believes in privacy and would never compromise mine, but I just don't know. He'll mention something that I KNOW I've only written in an email or chat with a friend.

The only way I continue to freely write my feelings down is believing that even if he DOES see what I've written, they are my thoughts and feelings, and NO ONE can take those from me. Thoughts and feelings are neither right nor wrong, they're mine and mine alone.

If he makes the choice of reading them, that then becomes his problem...he'll have to wrestle with the demons that it creates himself. Also, if he then brings it up to me, I then have the right to end the conversation as he then openly violated my privacy and no longer deserves the privelege of a reply.

We can continue to live in fear, and I know the feeling of being terrified they'll find the words and use it against me, either physically or verbally, or we can believe that we have a RIGHT to our thoughts and feelings. Once I came to this conclusion, I've written in journals and then hid them between the matresses or in the linen cupboard (would he ever change the sheets??? lol) just so I could finally begin to feel comfortable expressing my feelings and knowing it was ok to do so.

I no longer hide my journals - in fact I write in them while he's in the same room now. Helps me to feel like I have some control in a world that is otherwise totally out of control.

It's a hard decision to make, but know you have a right to your thoughts and feelings... Hugz

It's important that you lock your journals so only you, or those on your friends list can only see them. Also, on your profile keep it as generic as possible if you are worried. And make sure your name is not anything that he would recognize. You can get your name changed if you feel the need

i worry about the same thing all the time and havent yet plucked up the courage to start a journal for those very reasons. in my posts i always make sure to make subtle changes to detail such as ages/dates etc so if my evil ex does track it down he will struggle to determine whether its me.

I've always had issues keeping a journal, but that's because I've had my written journals often confiscated and compromised for punishment.

I feel a bit more comfortable with online journals, but as long as it's private, so u would need an exclusive password to get to them. It feels a bit odd to be "journaling" again, but it is a wonderful release to put everythng down and get it out from time to time.

And like hotpink and hockeymom suggested, try a locked journal.

And I try to be vague with my titles (or I just don't add one) so you can't usually guess what it's about.

yep. i keep a bunch of my entries set to only i can see them cuz i think they might be too recognizable to people i know. i don't use real names either.

i thought about that as i was writing a post 10 mins ago,and then thought what have i got to hide he did it to me and i want the world to know,why should i protect him while trying to protect my privacy,who the hell is he anyway,your days of being afraid are over now your an ex,if you need to share and get it out of you,remember you are the important person,not him!! he's nothing. telling yourself this makes you stronger

Yes, when I first joined I did. Don't put anything that may identify you: screen name, age, state/city, or names/places of things that happened. The other option is to make your journals private for only you to see and people on your friends list to see. Be careful who you choose as friends if you are very worried about this.

I'm more comfortable now about it because I don't care what he thinks or does now.

Good luck hon!

Hugs,
Amanda

dear lgs sorry to hear you are so afraid to journal but as you can see you are not alone with your fear and i would expect with good reason as i can relate also - just stay strong and know that people on the board here are always ready to listen jd

Wow, do I know what you are talking about~! I sat and wrote everything that he had done to me for a very long time and would hide it in my son's closet...I wanted to keep it in case something ever happened to me someone would find it - but I got so afraid he would find it that I threw it out. I wish I wouldnt have now though, because he eventually tried to kill me and is serving a 16-year sentence. I could have made a movie~!

personally I can care less what my x reads, she is out of my life. I have way better things going on now.You should never have to worry about someone you broke up with, just journal and go on with your life, if she comments, block her.

how i wish i could put my "real name/identity here"!.only my abusers knew this is me if they read my journals and connect it to them because only "me and them" knew what really happened....they have no remorse and they are not good people so i am not afraid being here...journalling makes me feel better because i get to "unload".........