I'm a 21 yearold mother of 1 and I just recently left an emotionaly abusive relationship with the father that lasted 6 years. I will try to keep this simple and to the point. He was controlling, jealous, possesive, and called me harsh names all the time. Everyday with him I felt like a bird in a cage just wanting to fly away free. Finally I found the strength to kick him out and change my lock. About 4 days after, he called me and asked if I would meet him somewhere with some of his things, which I agreed to. When I got there, he was there with his new girlfriend and wanted to show her off, and make me jealous? They completely humiliated me, and it hurt my daughters feelings as well to see that. That was about 3 weeks ago. It's such an uncomfortable and big shift in life, but everyday get's a little easier. However, today he called me and wanted to know if I would appologise to him? He then started telling me how great his new girlfriend is, and how he changed his tattoo to say her name rather than mine. He also mentioned that he doesnt want her talking to other guys, so he's not allowed to talk to me anymore. It really hurts, I feel so betrayed, and replaced. While I know he is already showing signs of control over her, I still do end up feeling jealous and depressed and I'm really not sure why. My dad tells me the only power he has is the power that I give him. When he hears me get upset on the phone, he's winning at his little game. Well I dont want to play anymore! How do I break this? How can I not get upset, and how SHOULD i react the next time he calls? I really need some advice, maybe from someone who's been through this. Any advice will help, other than telling me to see a councilor (already looking for one!). Thanks :-)
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