YES. SEEK THERAPY. SEEK A GUIDANCE COUNSELOR. Ask anyone and everyone you can for help. Except of course your husband who doesn't seem to want to be of any help to you. Please don't be mad at me for saying that, but sweetie - you brought it up and therefore that makes it fair game for comment.

Just moving on doesn't fix anything, it just buries it so deeply that it takes forever to expose and get over. Want to know how i know this? I did it. I left my abusive marriage seven years ago. Just turned and walked away. No counseling, no therapy, no nothing. Seven years later i'm in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful man, but we hit a stressful time and I started having flashbacks, nightmares, panic attacks. The whole 9 yards. My marriage was mentally, verbally, emotionally, physically and sexually abusive. You can't move on just because you decide to do so. You need help navigating the minefield that is your psyche when it comes to this issue. GET THAT HELP.

Thanks for your input.

hI Juila
your only human and you are a person but after abuse will always be there.

The fact that someone is abused and then they just go on to the next victim is ok because the abuser always gets the sympathy and the person suffering the abuse is expected to sweep it under the carpet and get on with there lifes.

yes I think you should seek therapy.even group therapy. My husband said the same kid of things because he didnt understand the full extent of things.when he went to therapy with me a couple of times he realised how serious things were.good luck.

Abusers dont need therepy (they think) becasue they dont want to admit they are wrong, or think they are wrong. Victims need therepy becasue they were abused. My stbx went to three marriage counseling appointments....the last one he walked out...said he was sick of being in the hot seat, he refused to admit he was wrong, and when another person heard both sides of the story and agreed that stbx was in the wrong...he wanted to quit. My stbx went to indivudial counseling, but he failed to tell his counseler that he was sleeping with my best friend, he said that they did not get to that yet....If you think you need some help getting past some things go get help....if your husband loves you he will support whatever you choose.

Yes go to therapy and it will help to get it off your chest to a proffesional and just put it behind he can no longer hurt you the damange has been done.

There is no such thing as "move on" it needs to be surfaced and dealt with or they will surface when you least expect it.
I think your husband is selfish and inconsiderate, tell him to attend counselling on how to deal with and treat an abused wife.
Good luck.