I really wish I wouldn't have checked the news to see what was happening with the Royal Wedding. Seeing Meghan's family attack her so viciously before her big day really triggered me! In some ways I suppose, the way her family has shown themselves is in her favour because anyone with a brain can see why she does not associate with them any longer!
My family would have never been so blatant. I think they've always known better to put on a good front and keep the emotional blackmail and abuse behind the scenes. However, this has been triggering me so much as the scene feels so familiar to me. Them saying she's selfish because she should have invited them because they are family! That whole "family" thing is my mother's excuse for all kinds of entitlement! The irony is of course, that they are selling out their "family" for cash and embarassing her before the wedding! It's always a double standard with these people!
I certainly did not marry royalty, but my ex husband displayed a degree of culture and had a very good lifestyle. During the time we were together, I was supporting him a lot and after three years together, we managed to buy a large country house as well as expand our flat into a big house in London. It was a bit flashy for what we had coming in every month, as when the deals were made it was fine, but if no deals were made it was tight !
We got engaged and I guess I was still expecting my family to be supportive. The extended family invited us to their family cabin in the mountains. They had been inviting us for all those years. After we announced our engagement, we decided to join them. Little did we expect that when we got there, they would come right out and ask us for money first thing! It was a really rude awakening considering we had only just become engaged and I think my ex was expecting they would be welcoming him into the family some other way! Of course they viewed my ex husband as wealthy, so instead of contributing to the wedding, they came right out and asked him for money! A big fuss was made , he was angry, and the whole thing blew up. It was very embarassing and upsetting.
When came time for the wedding, nothing was done by anyone to help us and we were expected to look after their every need whilst they stayed with us. I was stressed out beyond belief and they were nonstop needing to know how to get to various places, sightseeing, and only thinking about their own entertainment. I lost a few kilos during the week from the stress and my mother was telling me how awful I looked as well! Always a lovely thing to hear before your wedding! Well luckily the pictures somehow did not look so awful, but my mother said i looked awful so I must have done!
My ex half sister looked a little like me as we both had long dark hair and similar figure. My entire extended family could not tell us apart and spent 10 minutes talking to her as if she was me, making demands, asking questions. She finally told them that she was not me! She later told me that she had no idea how I put up with them at all! Looking back, it seems so surreal that none of them actually recognised me over someone they had never met at my own wedding!
Anyway, just wondering if anyone else is getting triggered by this or paying any attention to it at all? I think it's knocked me out a bit and I have not been productive for a few days now.
Hope all ok with you! Blessings!!
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