I'm not sure if this is the natural progression of things or not? I have been out of a very mentally, emotionally and Physically abuse relationship for four and a half months. I now know that he was having an affair. I'm not sure how long before he left. He left October 4. (i threw him out because he told me he would never marry me and didn't want to) On Xmas he got engaged to the woman he was having an affair with. I now have all the information but didn't for months. The WHOLE time he has been gone he has been tell me that he is not with her , they are not together ECT............. Well long story short. I know. He has been playing his crazy making games with me for months. Last week he tried to tell me that he left me because i was the one who had the affair. I had told him I had a boyfriend and that is why he left me. Reality is the opposite. I snapped. Something inside wanted to get even with him for all his crazy making. This site has been wonderful in teaching me all about my abuser's behavior and why he does thing the way he does. I HAD LEARNED HIS WEAKNESSES! I have spent the last weak seeking revenge for all the crap he put me through. I turned the tables and told him he had nothing to offer a woman, he was ugly, couldn't perform in bed ECT...... I planned all kind of things to keep him off balanced, after all I learned from one of the BEST, HIM. I stayed perfectly calm doing this. I hate to admit it IT FELT GOOD to give him a good dose of his own medicine. And it had the desired effect he is shaken, of balance and hurt. I seem to have moved past this phase (thank god)to moving on. The things he did do not seem to bother me as much. I don't know if it was from gettin a little revenge or i'm done. Does everyone go through this phase???
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