Anyone have any advice on how to tame the resentment toward your abuser? How do I get past all the pain that he has inflicted on me in the past few years? How do I get past him locking me out of the house in bare feet and no coat in November when it was 40 degrees outside while he was inside, drunk, holding my one year old son? Or get past being called a loser over and over, or various other choice names? How do I get past him bringing up my depression like there was or is anything I can do to change it, like I have the plague or something? How do I get past him telling me to "just go lay down" like I am a dog, or telling me that because before I met I was nothing just because I lived in an "apartment" (a really nice one too), and it doesn't phase his thoughts of me that way to remember that I was in a professional career, made great money, and paid my own way before I married him? How to I get past the fact that he took my credit card from me, threatens to open a checking acount in his name only, tells me I am a bad wife (even though he does NOTHING around here, including yard work), claims that everything is HIS because I stay at home with our son and don't earn a paycheck, and I have to justify every thing I buy at Target like I am spending too much money on cleaning supplies or household items? I could go on forever, someone please tell me I am not alone in hearing or experiencing this stuff.
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