Yes its very normal

many times an abusive situation is to hard to deal woth so our subconcious barys it. but someting one day trigers thoes memeries and we begin to question if it is a dream, imagination or truth.
Explore why you need to ask youself these questions in the 1st place.
there is usually a sound reson.

Thanks, i know what the reason is. My family likes to sweep things under the rug and pretend they never happened. The memories were triggered some years ago when my sis made her allegations, but now I am questioning my own memories cause she never wanted to stop being around her abuser even after we were grown and she could.

That is so normal for children and teenagers.
Iv had the same wonders as you as to why someone would still play and get along with a parent after such an abuse.

The counselor at the womans selter told me this is a very normal thing.
I think this is the reason youg people are seldom belived when they open up. Adults have a preconceived idea of how they would react. But kids love their parents no mater what.

If you grow up with abuse you have no frame of reference to know it is abuse so yes - it is very natural to question your memories. I was told I was making a big deal out of nothing when I was hit with hangers, brushes, tree switches - acutally anyting she could get her hands on. The bruises were huge and the burns from one particularly horrific incident left scars that I have to this day. I thought I was making something out of nothing for years and I doubted my memories too. Yes it is natural - but the more you talk about it and the more you read about it you will know your memories are real.

And don't be sorry for leading off with a serious question - physical and emotional abuse leave very serious scars. You have a right to be serious about it.

Yes linda jean
I agree, same here we became so acustome to the abusive behaviour we did not know we were being abused.

the hangers brought back some memerioes of my own as well as other things

Exactly - who knew? We had no way of knowing especially when the people we trusted were doing the abuse and telling us it was not abuse. Talk about betrayal!

I remember my mom cutting my brothers arms with a knife.
My brother says it never hapened.
last year my sis says it did, she remembers it too.

Eudaimoni can you see the picture

No problem here, I know my abuse was real. So, do my friends, who were their to see me before and after, neighbors that were worried about me, teachers and friends at work that knew I had alot of bruises and members of my band who tried to help keep it quiet.

i erased 10 years of my life because of the physical and mental scars my mother placed on me.when teachers doctors and family noticed bruising i was accident prone, always bumping into lamp posts. then it changed"i know where to mark you people wont see the bruises" and she was right.only now at 36 am i coming to terms and trying desperatly to admit IT happend.flash backs are hard but neccessary part of remembering

Yes. There is a few parts I can not remember.

I'm currently reading a work book on sex abuse and it explains all of this. Maybe you should look into reading something.

I don't remember much of the most current beating. According to my neighbor, who called the police, it must have gone on for 15 or 20 minutes. To me it seems like a whirlwind of a few seconds. Our minds try to protect us by blocking certain memories.

My mother used to switch me with branches from a willow tree in our back yard from kindergarten to 3rd grade. I had to pick out the switch. I would get switched for such things as not reading fast enough. The switches left welts. I didn't remember this for years. When I asked her about it, she laughed and told me that was normal. I still wonder if that was abuse.