
Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
"Pack your SH*T and get the F**K out!!"

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Tomorrow is our 1 year anniversary. Last night he blew up...nothing physical..at least not directed toward me (the trash can got a pretty good beating). Last night he wanted me to "pack my shit and get the fuck out!" We're supposed to leave in the morning for Gatlinburg. He's calmed down now and apparently the plans are still on. But, to be honest, i'm a little nervous...what if he blows up while we're out of the state...? I think he has some kind of disorder that needs medication...we're going to counseling now, but we've only had 2 sessions so far so we haven't gotten to that yet. Even if he doesn't freak out, how am I supposed to enjoy the anniversary after all that just happened...not to mention, there is no apology..he thinks everything is my fault. Because he has agreed and is going to counseling, i'm still trying to work on the marriage. So, I'm not at the point that i'm ready to leave yet. I've learned to become very unemotional about the whole thing...I simply view him a person who is "ill" and needs help. So, i'm trying to do all I can to help him and save our marriage. But, in the meantime, i'm really sick of this crap.
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I was with a mentally ill husband for 17 years. His M/O was "suicide." Every six months or so, he either threatened to or attempted suicide. (Never seriously, I suspect - it was just an attention getter.)
His behavior became really erratic over the years and finally a psychiatrist told me... "YOU are going to be a statistic. The headlines will read 'Husband shoots wife and turns gun on Self.'
Okay... THAT did it. I never spent another night with him. Ever.
That was ten years ago. Apparently, he was not all that mentally ill because he has remarried and the "new and improved" wife he now has does not ALLOW him to act out. (According to what I have heard through the grapevine.)
I suppose I was not the right "parent/partner" for him. I didn't want to be his mommy.
Let me explain this one thing... YOU cannot help HIM. You have to help YOU. You are not responsible for his actions and you cannot apologize for his behavior.
Feather your nest, Honey. This marriage ain't long for the world and YOU need to be prepared to fly solo.
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We were in Gatlinburg just a few months ago and he was a real horses patoot. We weren't there 10 minutes when he announced he was leaving,that he hated Gatlinburg. He started walking to the car and yelled angrily,"C'MON GET YOUR ASS OVER HERE". I just ignored him and he left me there. I just enjoyed Gatlinburg and 2 hours later,here he comes,furious that he had to look for me. I refused to get in the car with him and he tore off. I'm over being embarassed by him.
2 hours later,here he comes. i think he knew I would get a hotel in Gatlinburg if he didn't show up. I would have.:)
He was so apologetic and almost in tears. he said,"I don't know why I do these things to you. Maybe I need more meds". I said,"Nope,you are an abuser. Only you can stop it at this point. We went through this 5 years ago but I'm not trying anymore. you aren't even smart enough to know you are embarassing YOURSELF,not me". But he doesn't care what people think.
I did notice he made an appt with our counselor as soon as we got home though.
DEFINITELY try the meds though. My husband was amazing on Prozac.