Yes. Often abusers try to make you believe that you not only deserve it, but that you enjoy it.

my x never said I loved the abuse ... but he did say that I was a drama queen and I liked that piece of it and I blew things out of proportion, it's not like he came home everyday and hit me.

I think an abuser's encyclopedia is necessary with these psycho's...but of course they all say it is all our fault! With their talent for telling lies and being beleived, they would be excellent criminals...this is so sad we have to joke about it, I guess!

he felt that sex was supposed to be very...ummm..... "active"
ouch, or that hurts was like a "yeah that's the spot" to his ears...
i always just assumed he mis-understood my otherwise kinky nature. Then kept giving me supplements to help my libido, and stamina. . . i used to be a lil happy about my abilities under the covers....but then i just felt like shit
i mean really....who wants to be bad in bed?
after i had to see a femmi doctor,...and she told me i was endangering my ability to have children i stopped sleeping with him....but i stayed!!!!? then he became physically threatening...i disappeared w/o a word

sorry...i went off on that one...
yes he has...in bed

Yeah. in bed, my boyfriend says stuff like that *rolls eyes* and I get the whole "blowing things out of proportion" thing as well. It really confuses you because you're thinking "is this really all my fault?"
But really, it's not your fault. They just try and use it as justification. It's not. Don't buy into it *hug*