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Now, Christmas, too?

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To say we are low on money is the understatement of the year. I have, however, adjusted to the necessity for filing bankruptcy. I can't adjust, however, to the feeling that I have lost everything that I took for granted when I married him.
I just found out the Christmas gift plans with my family and he said we can't afford it. Please, don't tell me I have to give up buying gifts for my family now. I don't know how much lower I can go. It finally got to the point that he nixed the joy of my holiday.
WHAT IS THERE TO LOOK FORWARD TO?????????
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some people are making gifts. maybe you could do the same.
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Hi Missy I make my gifts every year. You can do gift bags really cheap by taking a basket and loading it up with gourmet soups, crackers, cheese and sausage log, olives, pickels, chips, hot cocoa and tea bags, candies etc. Use whatever you have in your pantry. Put some colorful ribbon around it. I usually put a Xmas ornament on the top and tie it with a ribbon. I've made these little gift bags, in baskets, serving trays, and coffee cups. Its up to you how elaborate you want to get. My family always loves them.
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I know this might sound a little trite but there is joy to be had that doesn't take heaps of money. I am finding my current status a shock too so I am with you on the money front but gift giving shouldn't be about how much things have to cost. Make cookie's or brownies, something in the nice to eat line that you can make yourself in huge batches and just parcle them up with love. This time of year is about family, friends and love at the end of the day.
Good luck, feel better.
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I don't know if this helps or not... (perhaps misery really DOES love company?)

My daughter is going through some hard financial times right now. She and her husband have had to borrow money from me AND I have bought their groceries several times as well. I have told her that there will be no exchanging of gifts. She cannot afford it. The fact is, I already have more "stuff" than I need... and secondly, she would have to use my money to buy the gifts. I will buy presents... but please know:

MY joy comes from giving. (And I am not just saying that...)

I am more able to give to her this year. It could be different in times to come. She might have to loan me money and she might be the gift giver.

Christmas is not just gifts... It's being there for your family... and your family being there for YOU.

:) (spoken like a true mommy, huh?)

Jo
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I did this one year because I LOVE homemade gifts... I did not HAVE to make the gifts... I WANTED to. That lets you know how cool these gifts are! Oh... and they are so cheap if you shop at Aldi's or Sam's or Costco for the ingredients.

Gift Jars are simply the BEST gift... Check out the site... It explains it so thoroughly.
http://organizedchristmas.com/index-gifts-in-a-jar
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