I am 36 & terminally ill. I spent all my childhood being physically & emotionally abused by my father. We established a better relationship in my late 20's but now haven't spoken for years. He is a very violent man. My mother finally left 3 years ago & my only other sister & her family have no contact with him. He is using my dying to get all the sympathy & pitty he can, yet has never reached out to me. I have very direct orders I do not want him at my funeral(I choose to call it a celebration service) I am getting a lot of people telling me it's not my right to request that. My feeling is if you can't show someone how you feel & treat them well when they are alive why whould you want to show up at thier death? What are others thoughts?
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