Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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I am still worryed about marriage with my new man even though he is studying to be a pastor and would never hurt me..How do I get over the fear so we can be married
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I don't think we ever get over it, we learn to live with it... be happy and remember to watch for any red flags even with a pastor x
queenvalerie
queenvalerie
Sweetie i have been in a relationship with a good man, and i mean a VERY good man, for 7 years. Have to tell ya, the fear doesn't go away even after all that time. Our past has changed us and that is all there is too it. Once you've been abused there always a tiny little part of you that is afraid it will happen again. Now believe me, it is a TINY little part. But it's still there and i would be lying to you to deny it. You will always need to find your own safe place, and he is just going to have to understand that. It took a long time for my honey to undertand it and believe me - he was trying hard! Talk to him. Always talk to him. Don't stop talking until he understand you and don't be satisfied with his silence on the subject. Silence is not understanding. Do not under any circumstances compromise what you feel is your safe place. You will always need that for yourself and if he really is the "good man" you say he is, he'll understand. He might not like it, but that doesn't matter. Once he understands why you need it he will accept it.

BTW, signedpea...is right. Just because he's a pastor doesn't mean you shouldn't keep an eye out for red flags. Keep your eyes open.

Chin up, stay safe. GOOD LUCK!
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Its all about trust. Watch for signs, and if there is anything that bothers you, don't "ignore" it. How long have you known him?
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we have know eachother 7 months and we are sooo happy right now but that fear is still there
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