Hi everyone! I am asking for your experiences in divorcing from an abuser. I am in the process of working out the details with my soon to be ex, and he is at times gracious, and at other times hostile. I never know who I am going to get . My gut feeling is he is going to try and set me up. He tells me how I'm the one who left and he doesnt want the divorce and that Im not going to have this great life on what HE has built up over the twenty years. He is purposely not working full time so he wont have topay child support. My lawyer says the judge will tell him he has towork full time. Anyone know about that? I have this fear that somehow things will fall apart for me and that he will be able to sit and say "I told you you were wrong to leave me." He uses the bible to tell me how wrong and disobedient I am and how even by the worlds standards that I have no reason to do what I did. He refuses to see or admit what he has done to me and the kids. HE still controls me somewhat because I do fear that he is right. But in my heart I know that God helped me get out of the situation. He provided for me both times that I left and now I have the chance to get a nice little house that I can afford. I would like any advice on what to watch out for and how tomake sure he is not able to mess with me after this all goes thru. I want to be free and I am afraid I will make concessions to him because he has always controlled me and I might take less than I should because I want out. Tamra
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