
Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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My stbx is leaving. It could be as soon as tomorrow. I am really nervous about this. I am worried I won't be a good mom without him around. What if I really screw this up?
I love my son and want to make sure he knows I love him. I tell him everyday, I try to show him...
He is such a good boy and deserves the best mom I can be... what if... I am REALLY not good enough? What if my stbx is right? What if my son grows up to hate me because I messed up his life??
There are so many what ifs. I am relieved his dad may be leaving, but am worried that everything he said is true.
I love my son and want to make sure he knows I love him. I tell him everyday, I try to show him...
He is such a good boy and deserves the best mom I can be... what if... I am REALLY not good enough? What if my stbx is right? What if my son grows up to hate me because I messed up his life??
There are so many what ifs. I am relieved his dad may be leaving, but am worried that everything he said is true.
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I hope you are or will get into therapy and/or support. Your self esteem could use a shining up.
"I am relieved his dad may be leaving"
What exactly does that mean and how did this turn in events come about?
I am rooting for you and hope this is true. Please get the locks on your home changed immediately after he leaves.
You have got to have faith in yourself ruby.
None of us is perfect and we all make mistakes in the parenting game. Don't let the brain washing of your stbx eat away at your own innate abilities to mother your child.
I recently left a verbally abusive marriage. I faced the same what if's? IMO, I am much better off. Screwing up is always a possibility and can happen to us all. I think you'll grow and become more confident w/o his abuse and your child won't witness that destructive behavior. All the best to you.
your son could grow up to hate you. That is a possibility. But it won't be because of anything you do or don't do.
you will be a better mom by getting rid of hte abuser.
I will tell you about when my mom left my dad... well, for a while i was confused, but i loved my mom, and well, i moved in with my dad when i was in my early teenage years, and within a few years i saw the true person my dad was... and guess what, i went back to the loving arms of my mother.
think on that one.
Undermining confidence - The milk in the bottle. Inflating a small indiscrepancy which would be taken care before you were able to so that you would believe that you can't handle the child on your own.
Guilt-trip - by saying he is going ot be homeless.
Appealing - saying that he loves you while you are kicking him out so that you will take pity.
get home at lunch to see if he is gone. I will also stop by after work to see if he is still gone and have the locks changed.
Jimmy, every word you spoke about his tactics are true. Its just hard for me to believe he would do this to me. His tactics are true and they work better than he can ever imagine. This time though I have my DS friends for support and my son to think about first and foremost.