I was in a relationship with an emotional abuser for 8 and a half years. In short it was one hell of a ride! I alway kept hoping that things would get better and they only got worse. He attempted to make me feel like I wasn't loving enough to him, but I had started to distance myself because my feelings were dying. We had a son together who is now 5 and in April this year he moved away without asking me if it was something that I wanted and told me if I wanted to be with him that I had to move out there too. I was going to and I gave up my son's daycare and the place we were living in and then at the last minute didn't go which is a long story. Then he came to my house and trashed it, accused me of sleeping with his friend which wasn't the first time and walked out like he had done no wrong. He did send me a FB message saying he felt terrible about what he did, but then said it was my fault cause I make him feel that way. Then a month later we talked about working things out and getting back together, he came to town and rented a hotel and said he wanted his family back, so we ended up having sex and the next day he started saying do you really think that we can work on things after what you did, and saying that he needs to save face now cause when I didn't move out there it dissrupted everything and everyone. He was bawling about it all and saying it was just like the time we moved to bowen island and I left him there, which i did because he was drinking a lot and running me down. But his guilt trip was working on me and I started feeling really bad and terrible about a lot of things. After he went back I sent him a message saying he was right about everything and to just give me some space, then he sent me a couple of messages saying he still loved me and missed me that I sort of ignored, and within days after that he was in a committed relationship with someone else. Moved in with her within a month of us breaking up and now he says he quit drinking and smoking pot and that he has a new lifestyle. I had also caught him on gay websites and talking to guys on gay personal adds, so I confronted him with it asking him why he is with another woman when his true desire is to be with a man, he blamed me for his going on gay websites and said it was our unhealthy relationship that made him question his sexuality. But that now he has come to terms with it and he says that things in his new relationship are going great, he makes me feel like everything we had meant nothing and that we had some good times and a beautiful son together but the unhealthy relationship broke us down, which is true, but he doesn't admit fault to anything. Could he really go on to have a healthy relationship with someone else after all the hell he put me through?? I stuck by him through it all! He was just out of jail when I met him and did a series of stupid things that landed him back in jail and back in court and it kills me that I stuck by him through it all and he just dumps on me and moves on to someone else who gets a better him when all I got was the crap!!
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