I've recently realize that my husband has been emotionally abusive sense we got married. A little clichd I admit. I didn't realize that it was happening not even when it got really bad after we had a baby. He's toed the line between emotional and physical more than a few times, the last time being the worst. He's fairly stereotypically with it, classic angry, apologetic, and happy phases. Lately we've been in the angry phase. And this time it dawned on me that I was being hosed-whether it was intentional or not remains to be seen. I realized that I was in an abusive relationship. WTF? I mean I'm the one that could see the wife beaters a mile a way and I couldn't see this coming? Ok so it snuck up on me. And while I'm resolved to make the right decision and leave I still find myself having doubts. I'm worried about the confrontation, the fight I know he's going to start. I'm not a good fighter, and I'm afraid I'll get pulled in and not keep it simple like I plan. On the other hand what if he agrees with me? What if he agrees to go to counselling? Do I stay with him? Do I keep living life hoping the counselling works? He's not a bad man, I've seen the good in him...but how can I tell a rational decision to stay from an emotional abused decision that I can't live away from him?? A little guidence please?
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