Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have been on this site for awhile. My friends have mostly quit. I got used to just journalling. I am in the same crappy situation as I was when I started this site. My husband is every kind of abusive. Mostly verbal but he also tries to control me with money, ect. He has been physcially abusive to me also. He is very, very unattached but won't leave. He has no friends and his family sucks (even though he is always craving for thier support). My journals tell alot about what I have recently been going through. He did have a stroke about a year and a half ago and I think this has made our problems worse (but problems did exist before). I tried getting him help with a neuropsych evaluation. He started taking depression pills. (I personally think he stopped but taking them but I can't prove it). I wanted to wait and see what the test said but I don't think I can wait any longer. His moods are awful! I think I am going to see a lawyer. I am a stay-at-home Mom by choice and I really want to stay that way. But financially he pays the "house" bills and is reluctant to give me any access to accounts or my allowance that he has promised me. Christmas is coming and my twin's 5th birthday. I wanted to wait but I don't think I can. I am just looking for some friends to talk to. My friends at home talk to me but I feel like such a burden away being a happy person but never being happy when it comes to my crappy marriage. Any advice? I need help! Thanks...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Anyway, he is taking his blood pressure medicine and I and happy to report that he is finally back to being the man I married (most days).
I am sad to say it took years and years before anybody knew what was going on and he nearly died.
The hardest part for me was not knowing why he changed.
It has been 2 and 1/2 years since his last stroke and these days he is more like his old self.
If your husband wasn't physically abusive and you didn't have children, I might advise you to wait -- although that is pretty hard.
But you can't remain in a dangerous situation and you have to think of the children.
Do you have family nearby?
What kind of help can you count on your friends to provide?
It is really hard when they change so much and it sounds to me like he needs more medical attention.
My problem with the doctors was that since my husband wasn't paralyzed and drooling, they were pretty much done with him. Nobody reccommended counseling or anything.
Sheesh, I have gone on and on....
Sorry, I got wordy. I hope this helps.