A little background, some in here know -- Over Twelve years ago, I was indemnified from our joint account and he was given the funds from our joint funds to clear the overdraft. He was supposed to close the account and/or remove me. He let it default and low and behold all these years later, i have a court case with debt collectors. I had the county court judgement removed and the judge and collector both agreed that it was his ultimate liability due to the fact that he is in contempt of court of our final divorce order.
Just having to deal with this toxic guy after all this time has been dragging me back into his cesspit of negative emotion. I received his defence from his solicitor today. (He's not poor and has plenty of money) He is attempting to fight it and blame it on me. Now he is saying that he tried to close the account but that I had blocked him and they needed my signature! He also produced a note from some assistant manager at his branch in a completely different location. I am pretty sure this is some friend of his doing him a favour. In any case, the bank had told me that he wasn't able to close it because there was an overdraft and he never paid it.
I started shaking after I received it. When we were married, he was sly and manipulative; now he is just out and out dirty. Of course if he would have needed to contact me for a signature he could have called, emailed, or spoken to one of our mutual friends. It's obvious to me at this point that he has no scruples whatsoever. It's very strange that I ever thought he was such a great guy. But at least we know for sure !
I Just actually was doing quite well moving on with my life and wish he would get lost once and for all!
A short synopsis of trauma bonding:Its about misplaced loyalty or attachment. These relationships include exploitation, fear and even danger as well as times of kindness, nobility & righteousness. Nothing, not even emotional pain, physical abuse or even the possibility of death stops a trauma bonded person from caring about and/or staying committed to the abuser. Abusive relationships are...