Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Have you ever sat back and wondered why? Why this happened to you? How did it begin? Why did you let it continue? I ask myself the same questions every day. Get any answers?
I cant speak for everyone but statistically speaking there seem to be 3 reasons why a victim stays with their abuser.
1) FEAR (that the abuser (irregardless of an op or a ro)will come after the victim and/or loved ones of the victim).
2) NO MONEY (the abuser is financially absusing the victim and therefore has no funds to make an escape with).
3) NO PLACE TO GO (most victims are so isolated from society there isnt a friend, family or co-worker for them to go to. No acess to a phone to call a local hotline etc. Makes for escape very difficult).
I think looking back 2 and 3 were my reasons for staying and doing the roller coaster ride for almost 6 years.
Despite my ex husband's 230lb and 6 foot 4 frame to my 5 feet 110lbs I wasnt afraid of him hurting me. I might be small but the last man who laid a hand on me got his jaw broke by me, so that wasnt the issue. My issue was his threats to take the kids away and have me locked up on all these stupid charges (another long story, I'll share that one another time).
Sometimes, you have to fight back, its that simple. The unfortunate part is the law is very picky in most states. But my theory is if you're getting the **** kicked out of you what are we supposed to do? Lie there and take it? I think NOT!
Im not saying to meet violence with violence for we all know that violence begets violence but when push comes to shove, it becomes crystal clear that by the time you actually dial 911 you are dead....so doesnt it make more sense despite the fear and anguish to fight back in defense? What else are we supposed to do?
Even the ops and ros arent a garuntee that they arent going to come after us and/or the cops are going to treat it with respect for the law. By the time the cops are even called thats how quick one abuser prone to physical violence can take out a weapon and poof, we're toast.
I suggest a self-defense class as J Lo portrayed in Enough. We as her friend said "Have an animal right to protect the life of yourself and the lives of your offspring."
Stay strong my sisters and peace to you all.
I cant speak for everyone but statistically speaking there seem to be 3 reasons why a victim stays with their abuser.
1) FEAR (that the abuser (irregardless of an op or a ro)will come after the victim and/or loved ones of the victim).
2) NO MONEY (the abuser is financially absusing the victim and therefore has no funds to make an escape with).
3) NO PLACE TO GO (most victims are so isolated from society there isnt a friend, family or co-worker for them to go to. No acess to a phone to call a local hotline etc. Makes for escape very difficult).
I think looking back 2 and 3 were my reasons for staying and doing the roller coaster ride for almost 6 years.
Despite my ex husband's 230lb and 6 foot 4 frame to my 5 feet 110lbs I wasnt afraid of him hurting me. I might be small but the last man who laid a hand on me got his jaw broke by me, so that wasnt the issue. My issue was his threats to take the kids away and have me locked up on all these stupid charges (another long story, I'll share that one another time).
Sometimes, you have to fight back, its that simple. The unfortunate part is the law is very picky in most states. But my theory is if you're getting the **** kicked out of you what are we supposed to do? Lie there and take it? I think NOT!
Im not saying to meet violence with violence for we all know that violence begets violence but when push comes to shove, it becomes crystal clear that by the time you actually dial 911 you are dead....so doesnt it make more sense despite the fear and anguish to fight back in defense? What else are we supposed to do?
Even the ops and ros arent a garuntee that they arent going to come after us and/or the cops are going to treat it with respect for the law. By the time the cops are even called thats how quick one abuser prone to physical violence can take out a weapon and poof, we're toast.
I suggest a self-defense class as J Lo portrayed in Enough. We as her friend said "Have an animal right to protect the life of yourself and the lives of your offspring."
Stay strong my sisters and peace to you all.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
It certainly isnt easy for anyone to leave. There are so many factors involved.
Kids, finances, repercussions, consequences, jobs, all this and so much more. My question is- how in the middle of the abuse can we say we still love them even though we KNOW they are hurting us?
in truth, i didn't.
i had to move 2000 miles and move back in with my parents in order to get away.