normally in an abusive relationship when you know its wrong and you should get out - hard to do right (had an ex who hurt me) but now after 28 years i have ended it with my mother - which is alot harder! i finally got to a point (after watching alot of dr phil) to say enough is enough - im an adult now and you have to treat me like one. of course this just sent her off in a rage cause as far as she was concerned she doesnt remember hurting me and i should stop being silly and get over it . i told her i could try and start over the under conditions that she speaks nicely to me and keeps her hands off me. she got shitty and told me how could i do this to her grandkids - she is a good grandmother - i replied im teaching my kids not to take crap from people and if she wants anything to do with me or my kids she will have to be nice. So thats it - i havent heard from her in just under a year. im happy that shes not hurting me anymore but at the same time learning to deal with the fact that my mother doesnt love me enough to be nice me and that makes me feel sad! i hoped that she would but in my heart knowing the kind of person she was i knew she wouldnt but i still had that hope - a child always hopes to be loved by their mother.
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