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It's so hard not to believe

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deleted_user
The things that are said in the honeymoon phase are so hard to not believe!!! I have told him we are no longer a couple, but we still talk here and there ... he says he loves me, I'm the only one he's ever wanted to marry, he wants to have kids with me, he has never had such pain as this before, he doesn't think he'll ever be able to let me go and move on .... Could any of this really be true or is it that he just is lonely and doesn't want to start over with someone else?? Is it that he just doesn't have control over me anymore and this is his way of trying to get it back?? He grabbed me here and there, but there was only one weekend - 3 days - of the physical piece ... so that leaves most of my drama with the emotional piece, which I guess is his strength ... Why is this so darn hard??
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deleted_user
stay safe.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Stay strong, Darling! I am going through that with my STBX, also... It is only the Honeymoon Phase! Everything will go back to the way it was, as soon as you get back with him! You can do this, you are strong, you are a beautiful person, you do not need someone like that in your life! You deserve better!
Loved1
Loved1
It sounds like you are figuring it all out. Stay true to you! I think the answers to your questions could be yes. & Why is it so hard? I guess because it doesn't make much sense, how someone who is what we think loving can also be cruel. Listen to your instincts. I know my mom said to save something for myself. It's like I gave it all away, so I need to hold onto something to keep. My integrity? My self respect? My loyalty...to myself? My self love? My ability to stand up to myself? My desire and choice not to depend on someone who has a tendency to be abusive? Those sound like a good start. I can start over today, the past is over. What I have to count on today is ME.
Loved1
Loved1
correction... My ability to stand up for myself.!
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's hard for us to tell you if he means what he says or not, because we don't personally know him.

I am going through the same situation, and I believe him when he tells me all of those things, but the fact of the matter is--he's not going to change.

Your ex may indeed mean the things he is saying.. but I can almost guarantee that once you go back, you will see that things will be just the same as before.

Be safe and guard your heart.
deleted_user
deleted_user
yeah gard your heart my husband says everyone of those words and more ONLYwhen im going to leave, then when im back its back to getting slaped around
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