During a disagreement has anyone experienced trying to talk rationally to your partner only to have him cut you off, yell over you, swear at you, not allow you to speak and when you do try to get a word in you are told that you're wrong and he doesn't want to hear about what you are feeling or thinking. It's all turned back onto what I don't do for him, how everything is my fault, how I'm a liar and he never admits any fault of his own. I have been in this relationship for 10 years and have always questioned what I was doing wrong and why it seemed everything was always my fault. I began to believe him and over the years I have lost who I am and have allowed him to take away much of my self esteem. I'm still not sure that what I'm experiencing is verbal and emotional abuse but from what I've read and have been told it is. Maybe I'm just in denial. It's like he's two different people, a loving caring one but 10 mins later can turn into an evil bitter one. I often tell him he's heartless because he shows no emotion, only anger. Why won't he really listen and empathize what I'm feeling? I have written him letters over the years because we could not talk...they remained unopened and when I ask why he tells me he doesn't care and doesn't want to hear me complaining. This is all so confusing.
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