I need help and advice. I have never been in a completely healthy relationship -- nor have I been in an emotionally abusive one...so I don't know what this is. I have never felt this kind of connection with someone; he is open and honest and our hearts are completely connected....that is until he gets mad. It doesn't seem to take much to set him off (usually when he feels attacked, which can happen if I bring up something in our relationship I am frustrated with). Within minutes he is shaking and pacing the floor and yelling at me...and completely disconnects. Makes fun of me, calls me names, tells me there is NOTHING between us, that he doesn't love me, etc....this can happen just hours after feeling completely connected and loved by him. Last night he called me a b**** and locked me out of the house for a while. When he let me back in, he was in total shut-down mode. Sullen, quiet, ignoring me, except with outbursts telling me to get out. This is a guy talking marriage with me just the night before. I am confused and feel embarrassed that I can't recognize if this is just "working thru the hard stuff" of a relationship or something I should run from. Help?
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