i am new here and am in serious need of advice.My daughters grandmother on her biological fathers side is the person who is basically attacking me ,my husband, and daughter.This is an emotional thing not physical.My daughters father wants nothing to do with her,my husband has been her dad sense she was 4 months old,she is now 3 and a half.My husband happens to be someone that she and her son knew for years,they were close.Even though the father wishes nothing to do with her my daughter does see the rest of his family on a daily basis.We go to there church and for a while they were like our family too.Her grandmother says horrible things to me then turns around and says she would never say anything like that and tells her family(my support system)that Im the liar.She was caught by me excessivly drinking when she would take my daughter for the weekend a couple times.I stoped unsupervised visitation twice because of it.She ran to her family and cries in the middle of church about how I take my daughter away on purpose and she didnt do anything wrong and I must have a vandetta against her.She constantlt puts things in my daughters head about how her daddy will go to jail if he smaks her and daddy is bad,then she tells her how her biological father(her son who wants nothing to do with her)is a good guy.She shows her videos of him and his family and tells her see he is such a good guy and your daddy is bad.This has caused behavioral problems with my daughter.She wont listen to my husband and tells him hes bad and does not listen to punishment from him.My huband is a wonderful father and loves her so much.He did no wrong to her,ever.The grandmother is denying she ever said any of it to my daughter but kids repeat things all the time and my daughter has told me all the things she has said to her.I said no way your takin my kid unsupervised,I know what your puttin in her head and your causing severe problems.She sys my friends say I should get custody of her but I cant cause I have to proove you unfit.But she says it in such a way to be a threat of actually doing it.No one believes me that she does all this.She lies to her family and says I cut off ALL visitation so they take time out of their lives to come to my house and tell me I must have a problem because her and her husband are leading good christian lives and she would never do or say any of those things to my daughter and thats its not fair I keep cutting off all visitation.I never cut off all visitation,just unsupervised but they dont believe me.I dont know what to do.I wake up like clockwork every morning between 4 and 4 30 crying my eyes out.I dont eat right,Im always severely stressed.I cant even get near her without shaking because of what shes done.When I have to confront her about something my mouth goes so dry I cant even talk.And I have to confront her and her husband.I have to find a way to expose the truth.I had to pull my family out of our church because of her,my step daughters mother has refused to allow my step daughter around her because she threw a fit infront of her,screaming and yelling at me.My stepdaughter is only 8 and now knows adult information that she cant be expected to understand.I just feel emotionally raped.should I be worried about her trying to take me to court?should I cut off all visitation or just keep it supervised?I am so confused,someone please help because I feel like Im going crazy.She always makes me second guess myself and so does her family,which in turn causes eratic behavior on my part and then she turns around and says look how a mess she is,this is obviously all her fault!!She says all the time how she is the victim here and she just cant take the stress anymore.And there is so much other stuff she has lied about and says is my fault but its made up stuff.I am so confused.
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