i've tried to figure my situation..according to all the profiles of abusers, they are jealous, controlling, etc. my husband isn't all out like that, so i cant tell what to do. he is sensible, not dramatic or jealous, he lets me use the bank account as i wish. no problem. but when he does get angry he crosses the line sometimes. he usually gets angry if I provoke him-he doesn't start the fights. like, he's pushed me onto the floor, he's punched me in the arm and it left a bruise for 2 weeks, he punched a window and broke it, and lastly he threw a baby bottle at me. he doesn't admit that he really punched me, he says he was pushing me, (but believe me, it was undoubtedly a fist balled punch), and then says, "well its not like i hit you in the face", and the baby bottle-he wasn't throwing it AT me, he was just throwing it and he definately doesn't have a problem...so he says. this is all the physical stuff that has happened. he doesn't try to control my life or isolate me. he just gets violent and controlling if i get mad at him first. so, i mean, i know its abuse, but its not bad abuse, not like full blown lifetime special sadistic abuse...so what am i supposed to do? i have 2 kids, a baby and a toddler. we have a nice life together, except for this problem. what do i do? plz dont tell me how hes a monster and i need to sack up and leave right now, that just isn't going to happen.
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