My husband seems to have some of the characteristics of an abusive person, but even then I question how much he meets those characteristics and how often. He can be demanding of my time, expectant of constant attention, and critical of my behavior or actions (as well as our sons). If I don't meet his needs he sometimes lets it go and sometimes makes a comment or two and sometimes is downright mad. This is when I can see the abusiveness, but it is rare. However, the comments make me uncomfortable and even when he lets it go. I never really know when he is going to be upset, so each time I prepare myself to be on the defense and most of the time it is wasted energy. Am I doing this to myself? Am I expecting him to be abusive because this is what I have read and what I have been told? A little background I talked to a domestic violence advocate and a DV counselor a few months ago, after he had shoved me during an argument. This physical act only happened once. He has improved greatly since then.
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