Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I am completely moved out from my ex-boyfriend's house. It took three days, six people and a ridiculous amount of tears- but it's done.
He has not mentioned the pregnancy once- not even once. He saw all the tests, he didn't move to touch me when I bawled at how scared I was since we had just broken up. Tonight I tried to talk to him about it all when I brought the last box down. I asked him, "Why are you refusing to acknowledge this- or speak to me." He said he 'didn't know.' I asked him if he was 'punishing me' and he said, "he wasn't sure." He won't give me a straight answer about anything- he wont even say that I'm going to have a baby. I asked him in non-threatening tones. I used the correct language, "I feel this when.." I tried so unbelievably hard to make him understand the pain and stress I was going through. I asked him if he cared and he said, "Yes." I asked him why he didn't act like it and he said, (of course-) he didn't know.
How do you get over someone who is so non-verbal. He never acknowledges me or the baby- he's never apologized. He did say he was 'sorry his first child would be killed off' -by me, because with everything, I was considering an early-term abortion. (He wouldn't even talk out the options with me- or talk to me at all.) I've been literally left for the past three days to figure this all out- move out and pick up everything in my life.
He truly thinks he is NOT in the wrong. He says that I make him argue- and that I'm causing fights so he is refusing to talk to me. He says he'd rather I just move out so he doesn't have to deal with anything- because now he wants to move out of state, and away. (He's actually packing and really planning to move.)
He deserted me- my best friend.. my boyfriend. (All this- his behavior - started in the last week. I saw warning signs so I ran- then I found out I was pregnant.)
Can someone please explain how a man could be so cruel?
He has not mentioned the pregnancy once- not even once. He saw all the tests, he didn't move to touch me when I bawled at how scared I was since we had just broken up. Tonight I tried to talk to him about it all when I brought the last box down. I asked him, "Why are you refusing to acknowledge this- or speak to me." He said he 'didn't know.' I asked him if he was 'punishing me' and he said, "he wasn't sure." He won't give me a straight answer about anything- he wont even say that I'm going to have a baby. I asked him in non-threatening tones. I used the correct language, "I feel this when.." I tried so unbelievably hard to make him understand the pain and stress I was going through. I asked him if he cared and he said, "Yes." I asked him why he didn't act like it and he said, (of course-) he didn't know.
How do you get over someone who is so non-verbal. He never acknowledges me or the baby- he's never apologized. He did say he was 'sorry his first child would be killed off' -by me, because with everything, I was considering an early-term abortion. (He wouldn't even talk out the options with me- or talk to me at all.) I've been literally left for the past three days to figure this all out- move out and pick up everything in my life.
He truly thinks he is NOT in the wrong. He says that I make him argue- and that I'm causing fights so he is refusing to talk to me. He says he'd rather I just move out so he doesn't have to deal with anything- because now he wants to move out of state, and away. (He's actually packing and really planning to move.)
He deserted me- my best friend.. my boyfriend. (All this- his behavior - started in the last week. I saw warning signs so I ran- then I found out I was pregnant.)
Can someone please explain how a man could be so cruel?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
He just texted me, and said--- out of nowhere...
"I've been trying to offer help."
?????!!!!!
Help- is this something they do to get us back ?Help.
I know that things are hard right now. You need to focus on you and the baby for a little while, and don't worry about him. He'll either make his decisions or he won't, but you can't let that stop you.
I promise no amount of words or explanation on your part will change anything. It's not a matter of him not understanding - it's a matter of him not having the ability to empathize with anyone other than himself.