
Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

rainyangel
I started dating this guy 5months ago. I told him I'm a bad alcoholic and need to quit. He's a pot smoker. He seems like he really cares for me and says all kinds of wonderful things. He says he loves me now and is always complimenting me and showing affection but he has also bought me beer whenever I wanted it and since I met him I've gotten drunk at his house alot. It seems like every couple days. I've been messed up and want to quit but he makes it so easy for me. I keep relapsing with him. He doesn't really drink himself. Anyway, he gets mad easy and especially when I'm drunk he gets mad at me because I don't want to stop drinking or I wont go to bed. He has called me names and he has slapped me on four seperate occasions while I was drunk. He says I asked him to or I wouldn't let him sleep or whatever. And I say don't buy me beer if you're gonna get mad when I get drunk. I'm an alcoholic and I can't stop drinking it until it's gone. We've stupidly tried to control it by only getting a certain amount or whatever but he says I always ask for more and I'll get mad if he doesn't give it to me. I don't think I want to be with him if I do quit drinking and I think he knows that so maybe keeps feeding my addiction to keep me with him. I'm worried because he says he cares so much but then he's mean to me verbally and hurts me physically when I'm so drunk I don't even remember much. Is it my fault I got hit? I can be a bitch while drunk and stupid. One time he slapped me like seven times in a row. He was sorry to me and said he'd never do it again but he has slapped me twice since then and other things while drunk. I feel so guilty for drinking and don't remember much so it's hard for me to put all the blame on him and I think he knows it. I'm confused I don't know.
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Have you thought about treatment for the alcoholism? AA or something?
Your first commitment must be to yourself and your sobriety. Without it you are useless to yourself and your child. Screw this guy. He has addiction problems of his own and they are compounding yours. He wants to keep you drunk for his own personal reasons and heaven only knows what those are. You don't need him. You need you. Period. Your son needs you. This guy is an ass that you are better off without and you know it, which would explain why you are here.
Take all of it 1 day at a time honey. Take it 15 mins at a time if that's all you can handle, but cut it up into little chunks that you can deal with.
CALL AA RIGHT NOW.
THIS JACKASS IS ABUSING YOU.
Now my question to you is this. Do you want to get sober or no?
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Isn't it sad the more honest we are with the ppl we love some of them feel the need to use it against us? Holy i had the same thing happen to me, except i got out on the first threat of being hit. YOU are not to be blamed at all for any of this, you put your trust in him as to letting HIM no your alcoholic, sometimes i wonder if ppl keep us sick with booze just so that they don't need to look at themselfs. It is our choice though if we drink it, its also very hard not to if its around and we think cause we were honest they will be supportive, in your case he is not. He is abusive! The Verbally Abusive relationship book is an awesome read if your into reading. All the best to you.
p.s A person that hits, mean words and controles is a coward and hides behind the one they abuse. charge his butt...
In order for you to get better in any way, you need to get rid of both. You need to get rid of your enabler/abuser AND you need to rid alcohol from your life. If you need help with leaving your abuser, you can seek help from a woman's shelter. There are many programs available for getting rid of the alcohol.
I also agree that you need to do something about this alcoholism. And quickly. Remember that you're going to need to be around people who support your recovering-alcoholic lifestyle.