I am happily married. It took me 30 plus years to find him. We have our disagreements, but we are happy. I'm lucky.

I am lucky enough to be happily married. Some people have marriages which are generally happy but have to overcome some incompatibilities. My parents were like this. They loved each other but didn't always see eye to eye. They stayed together but had to work at it. There are different types of happy marriages. One thing they have in common though is that they do not involve abuse.

I am not remarried, in fact the divorce is not even final yet, but I am happier than I was in the last 10 years of my marriage. (I was married 31 years). I moved out when it was scarier to stay than to leave. Filed for divorce 5 months later for the same reason. I have never looked back on my decision. I have missed my son more than I can express, but that too is coming around. Happiness has many forms. I am happy now just having a life that is not full of lies, abuse, & alcohol, and is full of friends, appreciation, and my son is coming back into it. Good luck, you'll know when it's time.

I have been in a fantastic relationship with a fantastic man for 7 years. I love and adore him and his 2 kids and they love and adore me.

If what you are looking for is "happily ever after" you will never find it. It isn't real. But if what you are looking for is contentment and peace and joy, you will definitely find that. Now granted you will only find it after you've found some peace in your life and that won't happen until after you are out of your abusive marriage.

There is always hope sweetie. Life wouldn't be worth living without it. But you've got to generate it. It doesn't just come flying out of the blue to find you.

Things are looking up for me now I am the happiest I have ever been and that time for you will come. There can not be all bad good will turn up in your life I promise.

I am in dead marriage no love or sex but bearable. But and this will set teeth going am in Love with someone else. We on her insistance are waiting till my son is 21. But she makes life worth living. Oh she is 4000 miles away so its a platonic relationship. It is the Raison Detre of my life. SO YES I AM HAPPY

I have been married for almost 7 years to the best man I could ever have hoped forI believe that you have a soulmate waiting to find you.you just havent found them yet. hang in there. it will happen.

Ive been married to him for 15 years . sorry miss print.

I am so happy with my boyfriend, we actually have a healthy relationship, its awesome.

I have met many couples that have a solid and loving relationship when one of them were abused in a previous marraige. The trick is, and my therapist confirms this, is that you have to be happy and complete with yourself in your singleness if you ever hope to to be happy and complete in a marraige. We should not expect a partner to "complete" us, we should expect that partner to "compliment" us.

I'm not married. Still looking. I'm going to take my time and not jump on the first person to show interest in me.

However, I know several couples who are happily married and have been so for some time. It gives me a role model for what to look for in a future possible spouse.

This is from a cynical, twenty-something.. ok?

Sometimes-- your happily ever after, for a while? Is YOURSELF. Sometimes it's the realizations that you can do things without a partner in crime. You build legs underneath yourself- you travel farther.

You have stated you want out of your marriage.. (if the reasons are serious, or abusive?) Please know that getting out is the best option.

You can have your own happily ever after with JUST YOU. Take it day by day.

(I thought when I left J. I would be a miserable mess.) I thought I'd be moping around daily at my singledom- that I'd lost everything I wanted. I am pursuing a new career- i'm finding myself.

Whatever you decide-- a man cannot create your own fairy tale. Sometimes we need to make the perfect endings out of our own actions- and you can do it.