Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Im not new to dailystrength, but I've just joined this community. I hope I'm in the right place; I've already joined rape, but that doesnt quite cover everything else.
My parents used to abuse me when I was younger, and I don't know why. They insulted me all the time to the point I would cry and they would just laugh, and they would try and get my brother to insult me too. If he hurt me, they would laugh and say I prolly deserved it. If I fought back, I got into trouble. My bro was abused a bit too, tho not as much. Once, the 'rents tied him up in the bathroom so he couldn't get out over an argument. They've slapped me, thrown things at me, pulled my hair- once my dad strangled me because I wasnt doing the dishes fast enough. I told him the water was too hot and I was just waiting for it to cool down, and he flipped out.
Besides sexual abuse in school I suffered, my teacher began to abuse me too. She used to yell at me when I wasnt doing anything, and would take points away from me at random times saying, "you talked." or something like that. Even when the other kids protested I hadn't, she still did that. That moved into physical abuse, when she grabbed me by my wrist and dragged me out of the classroom. I had a bruise from where she twisted my wrist and wouldn't let go (of course its gone now :P). She never got fired, even when my mom complained. Apparantly, another mom told my mom about what was going on. I was surprised my mom cared. Guess she didnt want anyone hitting me besides her?
Sorry this is so long, I'll wrap it up; my parents dont hit me anymore, not since my mom was arrested for hitting my in the face with a belt during an argument. Blah, I feel kinda icky sharing this, I dont want you all to think Im freaky or anything. I feel kinda good sharing it too, its a lot off my chest.
Still, I hate my parents for all they have done. They try and act like nothing happened- the funny thing is, what I cant forgive them for are the names they used to call me. when I chipped my teeth after falling down stairs, they called me 'snaggle-tooth.' God, am I so wrong for hateing them???
My parents used to abuse me when I was younger, and I don't know why. They insulted me all the time to the point I would cry and they would just laugh, and they would try and get my brother to insult me too. If he hurt me, they would laugh and say I prolly deserved it. If I fought back, I got into trouble. My bro was abused a bit too, tho not as much. Once, the 'rents tied him up in the bathroom so he couldn't get out over an argument. They've slapped me, thrown things at me, pulled my hair- once my dad strangled me because I wasnt doing the dishes fast enough. I told him the water was too hot and I was just waiting for it to cool down, and he flipped out.
Besides sexual abuse in school I suffered, my teacher began to abuse me too. She used to yell at me when I wasnt doing anything, and would take points away from me at random times saying, "you talked." or something like that. Even when the other kids protested I hadn't, she still did that. That moved into physical abuse, when she grabbed me by my wrist and dragged me out of the classroom. I had a bruise from where she twisted my wrist and wouldn't let go (of course its gone now :P). She never got fired, even when my mom complained. Apparantly, another mom told my mom about what was going on. I was surprised my mom cared. Guess she didnt want anyone hitting me besides her?
Sorry this is so long, I'll wrap it up; my parents dont hit me anymore, not since my mom was arrested for hitting my in the face with a belt during an argument. Blah, I feel kinda icky sharing this, I dont want you all to think Im freaky or anything. I feel kinda good sharing it too, its a lot off my chest.
Still, I hate my parents for all they have done. They try and act like nothing happened- the funny thing is, what I cant forgive them for are the names they used to call me. when I chipped my teeth after falling down stairs, they called me 'snaggle-tooth.' God, am I so wrong for hateing them???
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You're not "freaky" at all, and I relate to you so much. Isn't it crazy how even people outside of the family like your teacher can join in, it makes you feel like you have something written on your forehead. And I agree the scars from mental abuse don't ever seem to heal. I will ALWAYS hate my parents too and don't feel the least bit bad about that. You're in the right place, thanks for sharing.
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welcome! *hugs* :( you're not wrong for hateing them, you deserve better!
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Honey, you are not freaky and you are in the right place. My mom was the same way when i was growing up. To this day she will deny/not remember things that she did to me. Over the years I think it has gotten a little better. It never goes away but I think the pain dulls some. Use the journal, it's really helped me vent and start to work through some issues. Don't hold it in. Got out and be happy to spite them. Show them your stonger. I'm here to vent to anytime. Stay safe and try o be happy.
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Thank you all for your messages. It feels good to have people you can talk to who can relate, and people who know how to say the things u should be thinking all along...
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What you have endured from them is unexscusable!You are not a freak in any way,shape or form.They have the problem ,not you!What your teacher did to you is wrong!What you sew ,so shall you reap.The teacher who did this to you may not suffer at your hands,but eventually she will repeat her behavior to someone elses child and the consequences will be severe.As for your parents,if you hate them now it is okay because you have every right to feel the way you do.You didn't deserve that treatment,nor did your brother.No one does!
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You definitly are not a freak. You came to the right plce to talk about it. Im sorry you had to go through this, and In my book, you have the right to hate them. Keep up your strength and keep moving forward. Seems like you are on the right path.
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wow, ty! I was so worried people would be telling me I shouldnt hate them and I had to try and love them after it all- ty for understanding :D!
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