You all may not want me in this group because I believe I am an abuser. I am in a terrible routine of critizing and finding fault in everything my wife does. We have been married for 20 years and she really needs my support right now. She has finally admitted to being an alcoholic and is going to go to her first meeting next week. To be honest, she probrably drinks because of me and our personal circumstances - money, kids, work, etc. It is a terrible cycle, she drinks, I get frustrated, she drinks. I have to learn how to stop. Can you all help or point me in the right direction. Please do not just say counseling because we do not have the money to pay anyone right now.
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