Hi, my name is Lisa. I tried to respond to a simular discussion the other day and the system was acting weird and wouldn't let me post it.

I have been in a relationship for almost eight years. Shortly, after I met him he was diagnosed with colon cancer. The cancer was removed and now it is back in his liver. He has had seven surgeries since we met. When we first met things were pretty good in the physical department. Now, I get a peck on the lips occasionally and a pat on the shoulder with a "goodnight honey". Wow, that's really exciting. I have cried myself to sleep a many of nights. God, forbid I put the move on him I get," don't get too excited now." I bought a toy and brought it to bed one night to see if that could get him," stirred up." His responce was, "How much did that cost?" Well, I have to say that really destroyed the mood to say the least. I told my girlfriend and she said it would of turned him on more if you told him you bought a new toaster. Now, that's a standing joke about the toaster.
I am not a nymph or anything but, I truly love sex and intimacy with the right person. I can't remember the last time I was held etc. I know he has been sick but even a dog likes to get its back scratched. I am 41 yrs. old and he is 57 yrs. old. I know there is an age differance but, I know of plenty men older than 57 who still enjoy sex. I feel like I have waisted so much of my life, hoping he will get better and change. I didn't sign up to join the convent. Thanks for listening.