I went to lunch with 2 of my co-workers who are men. We talked about my situation. They told me My ex is controlling me and is being very strategic about it. They said it is dangerous. I guess I am confused because he moved out. Well, he took his clothes, a sleeping bag and towels. Says he has an apartment. My cell and the apartment is in his name. He signed a one year lease and told me he was going to pay all of the bills for one year while I get on my feet since I got this job. He moved as soon as I got this job, he had told me I didn't need to work and if I didn't like it I could quit. I haven't made any contact with him since Nov 17. I got an email on Tuesday saying he changed the password to my cell account. Which to me was no big deal. I don't care if he goes in and looks at it. I was a little stunned as to why he changed my password, or as to why he was even there. He would say it was because he was going to make sure he paid it or something like that. My friends tell me he is just looking for reasons to have contact with me since i won't contact him. He also put money in my account which I don't need and I told him that 2 weeks ago not to. My co-workers are saying he has full control over my life and that he is being very strategic and has everything planned out. That I need to be careful and get my own place. My son and I went over my finances and he told me to suck it up and just stay where I am and I will be able to save a lot of money for the next year. I looked online to see if I can find any books that could help me figure this junk out. I saw The Abusive Relationship and the Abusive Emotional Relationship. Any books any of you could recommend would be great.
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