Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Okay my P&EA Support Group:
I posted the following in my alcoholic support group site. They were adorable with their responses. I got to feeling like this was abusive and since I trust you guys, I'm posting here too. Would you please give me your feedback if you get a chance...
Here is what happened:
In the "2008 Financial Crisis" group, we were having a debate about the "stimulus" bill. Apparantly "BehaveWell" didn't like my political views and posted the following, in response to mine:
" Alcoholics are infamous for blaming others for thier problems. Perhaps attending daily AA meetings will shed some light why you have so much anger inside".
She had to have gone to my homepage and found out that I am a recovering alcoholic and that my stated goal is to go to more AA meetings.
I feel like I responded o.k., stating basically that the foundation of AA is about personal responsibility...but I was very hurt by that...I will/am getting over it (you know how tender hearted "we" can be) but just curious how you would handle and/or your opinion please.
Thanks.
Posted on 02/14/09, 02:02 pm
I posted the following in my alcoholic support group site. They were adorable with their responses. I got to feeling like this was abusive and since I trust you guys, I'm posting here too. Would you please give me your feedback if you get a chance...
Here is what happened:
In the "2008 Financial Crisis" group, we were having a debate about the "stimulus" bill. Apparantly "BehaveWell" didn't like my political views and posted the following, in response to mine:
" Alcoholics are infamous for blaming others for thier problems. Perhaps attending daily AA meetings will shed some light why you have so much anger inside".
She had to have gone to my homepage and found out that I am a recovering alcoholic and that my stated goal is to go to more AA meetings.
I feel like I responded o.k., stating basically that the foundation of AA is about personal responsibility...but I was very hurt by that...I will/am getting over it (you know how tender hearted "we" can be) but just curious how you would handle and/or your opinion please.
Thanks.
Posted on 02/14/09, 02:02 pm
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One of the difficult things about increasing awareness and self respect, is when to know when the cap fits, and when it doesn't?..
I know enough about you by now..To know full well that you are not 'spilling' out or leaking out anger..and also, I never heard you blame anyone but yourself?..Which you could do less of..because you are not to blame for everyone elses F-ups..or bad behaviours?..
Something I learnt a long time ago..is that if you feel attacked, for no reason, (and then take an honest inventory with yourself, and it still makes no sense at all)..Its hugely likely, that the other person, is actually talking 'about themselves'..and that its got nothing really at all, to do with you...Thats its relating to 'Their stuff'!!..and its about them 'acting out'..Their issues?
Please don't take anything personally, if you know and feel that its not 'really' about you..
I don't think it was..You don't think it was..Then it 'must' really be about them?..
I think its sad..Someone would need to 'project' onto others, what they actually feel about themselves?..
You always seem to me to be very honest, fair, open, caring, and not at all agressive, or blaming?..
Please just try to keep your focus on yourself..You deserve your own energy..and care..and let them go off and work on themselves??
I'm sorry that happened to you. Vonnie is right...I'd say there was some projection going on by the other poster....and a big ego to go along with it.
It is abuse....it is a case of someone needing to smarter, stronger, more POWERFUL. Tell her, she reminds you of some folks you met in the abusers anonymous club. They meet next door to AA, and come over and borrow their coffee...
No really, tho...just let it go. It is stupidity rearing it's ugly head. I hate to see you give it life by engaging it. But your instincts were right, it is abuse, and she is an asshole.
Hugs....
And my Vonnie...what a giving soul you are. Thank you for giving me your opinion of how I've been, because I value your opinion.
I knew my girls wouldn't let me down! Unward and upward as me mum used to say (she also said "tell them to go shit in their hat" but I choose carefully, when to use Dolores' little sayings.
I rarely, if ever, ask for help. It is so difficult for me to ask for help. I'm glad when I took a chance, you guys were there for me.