Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I was in an emotional abusive realtionship. WE have a child together and have been together for over a year. I broke up with him last week. I know that it was the best thing to do, but I am in so much pain because I miss him soo much. I have to be strong for my son. I just need support. I have no friends and I feel so alone. My heart is breaking. I just want to hear his voice. But I cant do that. I am just looking for support and any way to make this easier.
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
My thoughts are with you...hugz!
But not all of us have that. If you're alone, just keep posting here and Google "emotional abuse" a million times. It's a start at least. It doesn't substitute falling asleep in someone's arms at night. But then again, you're not having your heart broken every night.
I know there's something better out there..
Leaving is a very precarious time. We all feel SO WEAK! Myself, included.
Please try to reach out to friends and family, but if they don't understand, you'll get some good support from a women's clinic as they have seen and heard it all.
The pain of it is tremendous, the longing to talk with the person who has really done the worst things humanly possible to you. Boy, that's a head spin right there, isn't it?
Beware of the Honeymoon which may be on it's way to you right now. It pulls the heart strings like no other, but ultimately will not win you true peace or freedom.
Personally, I separated from my husband three times before I divorced. These times were gut-wrenching to me and to those around me watching it. There was NEVER the perfect time, the money, the clarity in my mind or the support to break free from this sadistic (Lover? Husband? Partner? Father of my Children?) Honestly, he was never any of these people in a real sense, but I was struggling to help him step up to the plate, if not for me, for the children.
I just hope you don't have to dance in circles as I did. Each time I took him back, it set me back in years. The honeymoon got shorter, his repercussions to me for setting the line got stronger and more scary. It made me feel sick to my stomach.
So, you are in my prayers and you are not alone. We've all shared things like this with each other even though we're not physically with you. RB
Stay strong girl - YOU can do it - we all know ya can. & you've got friends here to listen & support anytime.
We go through withdrawal from people we love, even the absuive ones, believe me I know. It takes time to get over the seperation but there is also joy at newfound freedom and peace from conflict. Embrace the positive aspects of your new life. You have imporved your situation for you and your child.
Hugs to you for your pain...