My family is emotionally abusive, and has been for a long time. I left them to go to college and once I was away from their toxicity, It took me a few years to heal, but I eventually found myself again. I identified the situation, accepted it, forgave them and moved on.
Because of this, I rarely visit my family, but the few times I have since I graduated have been awful. Every time is a cycle of my mother and sister berating me, twisting my sanity, making me doubt myself. And my dad standing by letting it happen.
Well no more. I will stick out these three months I have with them, and then I will begin to say goodbye to them forever. I have proven to myself time and time again how much healthier I am without them. I don't know why it's taken me so long to finally cut the cord.
It's the first day of school. I've done this since 1980. Only 5 more semester starts to go after this one before I get to retire to Mexico... Whee...
I wrote a couple of weeks ago (My Sister Is A Bitch) about my older sister, who is, once again, giving me the silent treatment. I searched online for info about the silent treatment and learned that it is a favorite abuse method employed by natcissists. My sister hit every item on the symptom checklist. I wish that I had known this years ago, because it would have spared me a lot of...