Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

5,382 Members
27,919 Posts
1 Online
Personal Challenges
/ Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

I feel like giving up on life

deleted_user
deleted_user
My life with my wife and kids has rerally gotten me down, I feel like a man maid to wife and kids, but nobody wants to help. My wife is so verbally assaultive towards me many a time I cannot keep face. She says her mom was the same way towards her dad who is deceased as well as her mom. If I did not like it I was to get the hell out. I think I just need a circle of friends here who can help my spirits and in turn I can help others. But right now I am at rock bottom with no real means of support, other than parents and sister.
deleted_user
deleted_user
so whats up

im lisenting
deleted_user
deleted_user
i am abusive to my hubby especially when getting sick again what else is up
deleted_user
deleted_user
are you or your wife in any kind of counseling?

i'm so sorry your going through this. it's not easy to deal with abuse. What's going on??
deleted_user
deleted_user
I sometimes will yell at my husband when I have bottled things up so much that I just lose it. I feel terrible afterwards. I guess my reasoning for it, is that I know he is not going anywhere. I know that is not an excuse for doing it. I have found that if my husband and I sit down and talk when we get the chance (somethimes we have to make time) that it really helps with not bottling things up as well as showing our kids the importance of talking and not yelling. I still have my days that I just lose it, but they are getting farther apart the more I get comfortable saying what is on my mind. There is hope please dont give up. We are here to help and support you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My wife has always told me, after we got married of course, that she always got what she wanted in life and that she is an adult and nobody tells her what to do. However, she feels like it is ok to tell me what to do. She always wanted a large family with lots of kids, I agreed to 3. We fostered for awhile and at times we were offered multiples infants, I told her I could not take on any more. She has never gotten over that. Also, when it comes to the household, she does very little to help, maybe a little laundry, and vacuum once in a great while, but that is the extent of it. When I ask her to help, she says to me "I don't care if it gets done." She has gone off on me at work once in front of co-workers with her banging on her desk, screaming obscenities at me about not getting a baby she wanted from foster care. There are many days I take so much Lorazepam and Sertraline to help me relax, and I sometimes go on 3-4 hours sleep a night. And as far as kids go, if I say something to them or discipline them, many times she goes against what I have said or done, and corrected ME in front of them. If I try to suggest counseling or something along that line, she flat out says "if I don't like it get the hell out!"
deleted_user
deleted_user
Has your wife been evaluated by a pdoc? Maybe she needs meds. If she is against it, try going on your own, maybe she will follow.
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • irishwriter

    come unwind in the bp lounge

    Posted by: irishwriter
    Last Reply: kisses2016
    7992
    theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
  • Rizen

    Walk a Day

    Posted by: Rizen
    Last Reply: Rizen
    2577
    I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...