I am the daughter in law of a woman who suffered from abuse for over forty years,until her husband suddenly died a week ago.The abuse was physical and emotional for most of her marriage,but as he got older the physical abuse was not as often,but the emotional abuse became worse.She has always been in a certain amount of denial about the abuse,although she talked about how horribly he treated her to me,she refused to leave,saying that she believed that he was the only person to love her.She was completely dependant on her husband for everything(she has not driven in 15 years and doesn't know how to use a computer for example).I would like to get her into a support group or possibly counseling of some kind but am not sure what would work.We will be moving her into our house for now,but my goal is for her to be independant(if that is possible)so I am also wondering what approach to take with her-because of the abuse she will usually agree to anything you say and then sneak around and do the opposite.She is a very good,loving person,but tends to be a little gullible and so I am afraid that she will be taken advantage of.I guess I am really asking for help as to how much we should take over her life-I don't want her to be vulnerable,but I also want her to possibly have a chance at living the rest of her life the way she wants to.
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