
Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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how do others in this group deal with their anger - some days i am so angry at how my ex bf treated me and all the lies i just want to go and get revenge and say how does it feel - i hate the days i feel so angry - also recently found out ex husband (prior to ex bf) probably did some major lies to me - lying just makes me so angry - i do enough sport but cant help with all the internal anger - i know its normal and if handled correctly we have a right to be angry and anger is a normal emotion it helps us know something is wrong - but sometiems when i have too much anger i turn it back inside and cant get it to dissapate and find this leads to further depression - I often have trouble saying I am hurt and trouble with crying when i hurt - i turn the hurt to anger - how does one lose this internal anger - ive been in therapy for years and i dont like myself when i am so angry and fear i will become bitter for life - my dad was a very angry bitter person - i dont want to be like that - do others feel their anger raging inside because of how they have been treated and how do you do deal with it ... any help welcome thanks jd
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The following is an affirmation post..someone posted here..and it helped me SO much..I hope it can help you too...
'In the words of Pushing Daisies, The facts are these:
He is not my problem.
I no longer put up with his behaviour. I don't have to, I don't want to - and I will not.
He will never thank me for leaving and will never be grateful for the love and kindness I gave him. And it's not my problem.
I am proud of myself for building courage and for leaving him.
I AM TRUE TO MYSELF.
Expect the worst from him. It's the most I can count on.
I might lose people in my life. It will hurt. But it will be okay.
It's time to move on.
I have nothing at all that I need to prove to anyone.
No one else knows the real him and I am not here to show them. It's their problem.
People can judge me all they like, it's just their opinion. It's not fact.
I am stronger than any of this.
I refuse to waste any further energy.
I am free.
I am a great person.
I love and respect myself.
I will survive this episode because I will not be a victim.
No one else can judge me. They weren't there. And they don't know.
I concentrate on being kind to myself and true to myself.'
Thank you Vonnie... that is beautiful... I've saved it...
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