Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I was molested by my natural father for about a year during the period my mother went through relearning how to do everything again. At age 29 she was in a car accident. I began mom in every way even though he had a steady fiance on the side. I played mom to my brothers, cleaned, cooked, was not allowed to play I had to watch them. I was sexually approached by my step brother, my friends father, my baby sitter and a few others though I never attracted it myself. I can honestly say after telling my brother tonight for the first time, that it is still affecting me I believe. I've never been one to blame something on anything. I was taught to own up to everything. If I fail its because I allowed myself to fail, Ive been beating myself up for years infact so much so I barely allow myself my breathe without guilt attached to it. I never came to know who I am or if I had any worth except when I was a mother. Now my kids dont need me and I am back to no idendity again. Being ill I can barely care for myself. My husband does almost everything but being passive aggressive he lets me know I owe him and I pay for it dearly emotionally. My mother died last month and this had turned me upside down. I was her care giver all my life, she was my rescuer, my best friend, my therapist, my everything. All the women are gone in my family now and me the weakling is left. I cant stand on my own two feet because the medication and health issue keep stopping me. Im sick of relying on others and yet I cant rise above the little girl in me that pushes me down so hard I dont know who I am, what feels safe, what is really love though I want to give it intently and I do to others just not me. How do I know if this abuse is playing into my daily life or if its just not trauma upon trauma after that, divorces, spouce abuse, deaths, losing my health, empty nester ect? Any wise advice? I am seeing a therapist but todays therapist believe in living in the here and now..... Desperately Seeking Susan lol
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
You could try bringing them up here one by one, making a post for each.
You could try making sure your therapist is helping you deal with your issues. This help does not necessarily come from going over the past with him or her.But you could need a different therapist. Perhaps one who specialises in sexual abuse and trauma might be the sort you need.
Maybe you could help yourself by steadily working through a good book like:
1. Stephen Hayes "Get out of Your Mind and Into Your Life" - see http://www.amazon.com/Get-Your-Mind-Into-Life/dp/1572244259/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1206705129&sr=1-1
and/or
2. Beverly Engel's "Healing Your Emotional self" - see http://www.amazon.com/Healing-Your-Emotional-Self-Self-Esteem/dp/0470127783/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1206705242&sr=1-1
If you are to heal, you face the task of taking control of your life bit by bit. I hear a lot of negative judgment and powerlessness in your post. But you can reclaim yourself, bit by bit if you work at it with guidance and persistence and lots of work from your very own self who does have a lot going for her.
Every strength to you.