Hi, I'm sorry that you're having to go-through/deal w/all of this junk. I've been in a similar situation w/my Mother and her being furious that I still had contact w/my Brother's ex-wife (in order to have one of our families side still have contact/impact in his young Daughter's/my Niece's life). I was vilified for that, which is obviously totally bizarre as it is with you. You are doing nothing wrong, it seems that your Mom has problems/anger towards her family, but that doesn't mean that you should'nt have contact w/them or support them especially when an elder is very ill. Keep your chin-up and I guess just try to talk about it as little as possible w/your Mom, that's what I did. It's hard.

yeah... i got a family a bit like that... different circumstances, diferent people... same efect...and it's a shame... it isn't fair, and it isn't right.
I am glad you did make the right decision... and one of my philosophies on life is that if someone is going to ostracize me because i decided to do the right thing as i saw it, then so be it.

I think my families equal or maybe even worse than yours...

Hey there. Sorry to hear all that, some families just can't get along. I think its ironic how the people we're tied to (our families) are often those we cant stand. I hope things go better for u.

no,your family is not the only family like this. I grew up with family members bickering over everything from who gets the knick knacks to why did so and so plan her funeral this way? and more . my mother did not get along with her sister-my aunt. When I was a teen my mother told me to never bring any of my kids to her to take care of-where that came from i will never know- so my aunt offered to take care of the kids when they were little for short periods of time. My mom's boyfriend who drive past my aunts house, see my car and tell my mom. Then i would get the phone call from hell from the mother when i got home. Adds way too much stress to the Holidays-and these are all grown adults. :(

My mom died in June and I got elected (noone asked me) to come stay with my dad because I have no job - I am disabled. I go home every 8-10 weeks to go to the doctor. Home is 12 hours away and because of disability I no longer drive so have to take the awful GreyHound bus. My brother lives 20 minutes from dads but we see him only every 2-3weeks. His wife has been up to the house 2 xs since my mom died and we dont see the grandsons at all. My daughter is in nursing school full time and still manages to come up and see her Popa every day and run errands for me. Plus she watches him when I am at home. 2 weeks ago my brother accused me of only being at dads so that I could sponge off of him (he forgets I guess that I have a home and did have a life) and that my dad plays favorites between his kids and mine - he doesnt see anything wrong with the fact that the only time my nephews even call is because they want money. One of them is out of school, has no job (he cant pass a drug test) and is not in college but still expects Popa to buy him a brand new 4 X 4. I threatened to go home 2 weeks ago and suggested to my brother that he be up here the following Monday as dad would be his responsibility, he said he could do a better job than me. He of course didnt come (good thing I had second thoughts) and didnt bother to call even to check to see if I was still here for 9 days. And to top it off my brother is my original abuser and just being in the same room with him makes my skin crawl. So to answer your ? no hun you are not alone as my family is the champs at dysfunctional\

Love & Peace
Raven

Well, you are not alone with a screwed up family. Welcome to the club. I don't actually know many people that have a really happy extended family life. Although, some peoples are worse than others.

Mine is bad too. My mother has been divorced from my father since I was 16, I'm in my 40's now. I have four older brothers, and a younger sister. My mother has turned everyone against my dad, so no one has seen him in years. My sister and my mother are good friends, have done everything together over the years, and I have been excluded. They talk bad about me behind my back.

My four brothers are dysfunctional, so I don't see them. Because I didn't want to get involved with that, they think I have the problem. So, I'm considered anti-social I guess.

My hubbys family is bad too. His mother always has an abusive boyfriend in her life and she expects everyone to let him treat them abusively too. She left my hubby's father years ago and let her then 13 year old daughter go into foster care, because it was more important to focus on her love life. So my hubby's sister is totally screwed up. So, I try to avoid her. My hubby's brother is gay, but won't admit it. He's 40 and because of his hard childhood, I guess, cannot move on, and wants to rely on my hubby like their still kids. It's bizarre. Because I won't let him anymore, he resents me.

So, welcome to the group.