Excuse after excuse after excuse. I know the answer to my problems would be for me to pack up and leave. That would solve my situation quickly. But just starting my job I have no resources put away to do this. After reading not only advice for me on here but the pain and suffering everyone else on here is suffering I can only see this as the only way. Yes, he says he has an apartment now. He said he has his water, power, and everything turned on. Yet he is only showing up to get some clothes. I have no idea what this guy is upto. But what I do know is that I am tired of wondering when that other shoe is going to fall. This apartment is in his name. All of the bills are as well. He really wants me to stay there and get on my feet and I would have a great chance to save some serious money, but at the same time, my sanity is worth more. He says in a few weeks he will come back by and get his computers, and his books. He still wants to get his mail here. Yeah, to me it sounds like he is moving in with someone. But the only way that could be is if he really flipped his lid. I wish I could explain to you the type of person he is. He is a loaner, his brother lives right here in this town and he has not spoken to anyone in the family for 6 years now. Not even my bf. I have never met the man. He got away from the family and went into therapy, and has not been back. His sis is 27 and on her 3rd marriage. His mom is a nut job. His step dad is a perv. He came onto me one time and I told my bf and he blamed me for it. His step dad asked me once if my 18 year old daughter could sit on his lap. How sick is that? His mom is very mean and she told my bf right in front of me if she knew about birth control she would have never had him and his brother. Just this year she said that. He is not socialable at all. He is very awkward around people. so that is why I cannot see him with someone. My son told me he is no ladies man and he honestly didn't see what I saw in him. The thing is I got to know a different person in the beginning. I didn't know what he looked like. We got to know each other through work, email, telephone. Totally different person. Then I moved here and his strange personality started coming out. Really strange. Then I get told I am the only girl he ever dated. Whoa, not what he told me. Then slowly and subtly I got brain washed. Not only by him but by his mom as well. She would start in that I was a bad mom and I did things for my kids I shouldn't be doing and it was like chinese torture, until I started to come to believe I was a bad mom. She would tell my bf things I said and how I really meant them and he would come home and just beat me up with it. I got to where I was afraid to even talk or say anything. I was told when I talked it embarassed him and he didn't want me talking around his family. People here who know him do not believe he is seeing someone but people who don't know him think he is moving in with someone. I honestly don't know what to think. he is an abusive jerk and very, very sick. A real nut job. I never thought I would say that about him, but it is worse than I have ever seen him. Now that I have been very blunt with him and telling him I would never take him back, I don't think I will ever have to deal with the begging because he can't handle rejection. I feel for everyone on this support network. The pain and confusion, seems so unfair that good people have to go through this pain and drama.