Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
as a new member of the community, I need a little direction.
how in the world do I tell my husban that I am considering leaving him because of his abusive nature???
the physical and mental abuse started about 18months ago, and has only gotten more frequent and serious.
oct 19,
we recently purchased a house in alabama and are in the process of moving there. although I am stuck in canada because of my green card papers not being correct.
the first phone call that night he was pissed, screamed and yelled at me, demanding that I be on a plane and down there by tuesday. impossible relying on the government. he wouldnt listen. since then he was been nice, talkinga bout his drive down, things he has had to do. never asking how things are going up here with dustin and I.
the second day during one of his yelling phone calls I hung up. when he called back mom told him to bleep off and not call back until he could speak normally. a few hours later he was accusing me of telling my mom false information.
day three he was still annoyed that I hadnt heard anything yet and went off on me. mom mtook the phone and told him to buzz off and never hit me again.
since then. he always talks nicely. excited about the house,the neighbor hood. and all that. I catch myself getting excited.
My head knows that I shouldnt go back to him. my heart breaks to know that it would leave him hanging.
in the short few days I have been here, I have slept 8 hours each night. an amazing feat with a 6mth old.
so confused right now
how in the world do I tell my husban that I am considering leaving him because of his abusive nature???
the physical and mental abuse started about 18months ago, and has only gotten more frequent and serious.
oct 19,
we recently purchased a house in alabama and are in the process of moving there. although I am stuck in canada because of my green card papers not being correct.
the first phone call that night he was pissed, screamed and yelled at me, demanding that I be on a plane and down there by tuesday. impossible relying on the government. he wouldnt listen. since then he was been nice, talkinga bout his drive down, things he has had to do. never asking how things are going up here with dustin and I.
the second day during one of his yelling phone calls I hung up. when he called back mom told him to bleep off and not call back until he could speak normally. a few hours later he was accusing me of telling my mom false information.
day three he was still annoyed that I hadnt heard anything yet and went off on me. mom mtook the phone and told him to buzz off and never hit me again.
since then. he always talks nicely. excited about the house,the neighbor hood. and all that. I catch myself getting excited.
My head knows that I shouldnt go back to him. my heart breaks to know that it would leave him hanging.
in the short few days I have been here, I have slept 8 hours each night. an amazing feat with a 6mth old.
so confused right now
deleted_user
I'm not really sure about your whole story, but I'd say if there has been physical abuse, he should NOT expect you to be back no matter what his circumstances are now. Shoulda thought of that before he hit you. And you have a 6mo old? You've got bigger things to worry about. HE is not your child, and the child is the only one you need to be concerned about. I'm assuming you're not together right now. I would just have to tell him there is NO chance, and make a clean break. Sorry I'm being blunt, but I guess some of my own frustration is projecting on to you. Good luck w/ it all.
psyc
I would have to agree with jmb32.you are at your parents now and you feel safe.tell him over the phone where he cant hurt you. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this.but think of the baby.you need to be strong for him.Im here if you want to talk.
deleted_user
I say stay where you are...he is abusing you. It will only get worse if he doesnt get help.
deleted_user
I agree with the others. I would not move to Alabama to be with him.
deleted_user
i must say that i agree with pretty much everyone. baby's happiness is most important. as it stands I am building up the courage to at least break the news to him that i dont want to live in that situation. no need to worry about me going to alabama soon. birthcertificate and passports are needed. dunno if baby needs one... but will know sdooon. :)
deleted_user
i thought our brand new house we build was the thing that would fix everything. trust me it doesn't. don't feel bad about not going to the new house. it has the potential to only feel empty and alone if you go. and when he starts the abuse again,and its more than likley that he will, you will be so far away from your support team"family" that you will feel even more trapped. and he may even take advatage of that and treat you worse because there is no way for you to go. please not only for hte babies sake for yours as well. please think this through before you get your papers done.
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