My exbf and I talked about a week or two ago now. A few days before that he had been telling me that I am every man's dream, and that we should just get married...kind of off-handedly. I wouldn't say that kind of thing unless I meant it, though. Anyway, a few days later I was just starting to freak out because I was so scared about not knowing the future...if he cared, why weren't we talking? Well, I called him, and ended up calling like 10 times in a row b/c he wouldn't answer. Then, we talked that night, and I admitted that I should probably go to Alanon, which is what he was always encouraging me to do...he is a recovering Alcoholic, and so was my dad. So he is in counseling now, but the last time he was at a counselor, he brought a book for ME to read that was recommended. I said, "I could have a million books recommended for his behavior by my counselor, but I wouldn't do that!" He has told me that he wants to discuss our relationship with his new counselor to find out if it is him, or our issues, or whether or not he was just reacting to my issues. I just feel like if I was there, we would get the story straight with the counselor. I feel like he does not understand women, and does not explain our fights accurately, and that he'll just chalk it up to the same he did his ex-wife. That I am great, but I have all these issues and he can't be with an unhealthy woman. Then to see him move on and feel like his life is all together is just maddening. How do I stop caring what he thinks about me? I want him to realize that he missed out on a great girl!
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